An adult meetup is any in-person get-together between consenting adults where the tone is relaxed and grown-up. For some people that means a drink with someone they met online, for others a casual group gathering. This page is for people who would rather meet in person sooner than spend weeks messaging.
The most common kind: two people who have chatted, found they get on and agreed to meet. Keep the first one short. Forty-five minutes over a coffee or a drink tells you everything you need to know, and you can always extend it if it is going well.
Some adults prefer to meet in a group. Social events, themed nights and community gatherings give you the chance to talk to several people without pressure. If you are new to an area, they are a good way to meet people who share your outlook.
Whatever setting you choose, everyone should be over 18, and nobody should be made to feel pressured.
Arrive on time, be honest about who you are and what you are looking for, and respect a no immediately. If you cancel, do it early and politely. Treat the other person the way you would want to be treated.
Message someone whose profile interests you, suggest a public place and a time, and confirm the details before you go.
For a first meeting, telling a friend where you will be is the sensible minimum. Bringing one along is a decision for you and the other person to make together.
All users must be at least 18.